Love that it was a different set of questions that helped reframe the decision. Like you said, doesn’t give you the answer, yet changes your perspective and framework.
Thank you Jeremy ! It’s still a decision my wife and I look back and still wrestle with. Glad you got some value from the framework. It’s a mental model I keep coming back to that I hope can help others :)
The deeper message was not about the spreadsheet or the data; it was really all about the emotions, and what would serve the twins best and help them thrive. You are both amazing parents, Kristian. Thanks for sharing this series. It was very insightful on many different levels.
Thank you for reading it Patrick ! It means a lot. Some of the hardest decisions in life aren’t easy and clean. They are ones that sometimes take time, especially the ones that involve loved ones. Happy this resonated with you :)
I really enjoyed reading this, Kristian. Especially the part about realising the spreadsheet wasn’t helping you decide, it was helping you delay. I’ve done that plenty of times myself! Gathering more information feels useful, but often it just keeps you from facing the decision.
I like how you framed emotion as its own kind of intelligence, not something separate from reasoning. Sometimes the thing that actually helps isn’t another fact, it’s that sense of “I can live with this,” even without certainty.
Thank you Debi ! I appreciate your reactions and reflections here. As an IT analyst, it’s easy to get lost in the data - in a way it’s a comfort soon. Sooner or later we have to wrestle with a different set of questions involving meaning and alignment. “I can live with this” is a philosophy I hope may be able to benefit others :)
I completely get that, Kristian. As a bit of a perfectionist myself, I’ve had to get used to saying, “I can live with this.” It’s not always easy, but that mindset has saved me from endless overthinking more than once.
Trying to make the perfect choice is tempting. Doing so can definitely make us stall. Glad to hear you are working through it ! It’s a journey for me :)
Love that it was a different set of questions that helped reframe the decision. Like you said, doesn’t give you the answer, yet changes your perspective and framework.
Great piece!
Thank you Jeremy ! It’s still a decision my wife and I look back and still wrestle with. Glad you got some value from the framework. It’s a mental model I keep coming back to that I hope can help others :)
The deeper message was not about the spreadsheet or the data; it was really all about the emotions, and what would serve the twins best and help them thrive. You are both amazing parents, Kristian. Thanks for sharing this series. It was very insightful on many different levels.
Thank you for reading it Patrick ! It means a lot. Some of the hardest decisions in life aren’t easy and clean. They are ones that sometimes take time, especially the ones that involve loved ones. Happy this resonated with you :)
I really enjoyed reading this, Kristian. Especially the part about realising the spreadsheet wasn’t helping you decide, it was helping you delay. I’ve done that plenty of times myself! Gathering more information feels useful, but often it just keeps you from facing the decision.
I like how you framed emotion as its own kind of intelligence, not something separate from reasoning. Sometimes the thing that actually helps isn’t another fact, it’s that sense of “I can live with this,” even without certainty.
Thank you Debi ! I appreciate your reactions and reflections here. As an IT analyst, it’s easy to get lost in the data - in a way it’s a comfort soon. Sooner or later we have to wrestle with a different set of questions involving meaning and alignment. “I can live with this” is a philosophy I hope may be able to benefit others :)
I completely get that, Kristian. As a bit of a perfectionist myself, I’ve had to get used to saying, “I can live with this.” It’s not always easy, but that mindset has saved me from endless overthinking more than once.
Trying to make the perfect choice is tempting. Doing so can definitely make us stall. Glad to hear you are working through it ! It’s a journey for me :)